Your guest list drives cost and atmosphere. Here's how to build it fairly, stay within budget and avoid awkward conversations.
Your head count is the decision that quietly shapes the whole wedding — it sets which venue you can take and how big the catering bill will be. So approach it early and with a plan.
Start with a number, not names
First agree a rough total that fits your budget and venue. Only then start filling in names. Doing it the other way around almost always ends in a list that's too long.
Split into an A and a B list
Your A list is the people you can't imagine the day without. Your B list is those you'd gladly invite if space allows. As the first RSVPs come back, invite from the B list in waves — without anyone noticing.
Agree the rules up front
- Plus-ones: decide whether they're only for serious relationships or for everyone.
- Kids: with children or without — pick one rule and apply it consistently.
- Colleagues and acquaintances: a clear line (e.g. close friends only) is easier than deciding case by case.
Track RSVPs in one place
A paper list goes out of date fast. Wedding Pulse keeps your guest list with RSVPs, meal choices and seating together — so you always know where you stand.
Next step
Once you know the number, choosing a venue is easier. Browse venues by capacity and find one that fits your list exactly.